Or, you know, you could just stop saying sorry.
"i have a problem i can’t control"
"stop having that problem omg"
Hi… Gonna go all SJ here, so let me apologize in advance for that, but people who say “sorry” a lot typically say it to avoid being yelled at or treated harshly. …and in my case, it was because I had a mother who blamed me for everything and kissing her feet was the only way to dodge a beating.
So! Just so you know! I’m sure that’s not the case for everyone, but if someone apologizes frequently, then it might be because they were conditioned to be that way.
THIS. This is me. I apologize literally for EVERYTHING. I’ve had people I know tell me to stop saying sorry or get annoyed with me for apologizing so much but it is something that I literally can’t control. I grew up in an abusive household and was taught that everything was my fault. Growing up with that, I say sorry for things that I shouldn’t be sorry for. I take the blame for everything when I haven’t done anything. I wish people could just understand that’s how some people are.
Here’s some things you say/do to people who say sorry a lot:
1.) Instead of saying “Stop apologizing” or “Stop saying sorry”, try saying “You did nothing wrong. No need to apologize.” This helps so much (atleast for me) because people who say sorry a lot tend to say it because they think everything is their fault or as a way out of being treated badly. Saying this really helps the person to feel some comfort and can help them deal with it.
2.) Drop it and move on. If you are ignored by them saying sorry, stop telling them to stop saying it and just move on to another topic. Something happy and fresh.
3.) Reassure the person who says sorry that you arn’t angry or upset with them. This is a huge one. We say sorry so often to avoid you being angry at us or because we feel like we are bothering you. Reassuring that person that you still love and care for them (whether it be in a friend or intimate way) will help that person significantly.